All my life I’ve been able to make friends quickly, and I’ve always enjoyed going out of my way to be friendly to strangers. I even won the superlative “most friendly” in high school (if high school superlatives even hold any weight at all). I thrive off living a life full of spontaneous decisions and adventures while being surrounded by people. Based on these simple facts, I’ve gone ahead and assumed for the majority of my life that I am an extrovert – until recently. It was my junior year of college when I moved into a house with 7 other girls that I realized I need my space. Sure, I loved living with my best friends and being loud and goofy most of the time, but there came days that I just needed to be in my room for some alone time to stay sane. I quickly discovered that if I didn’t take the time to do the things I wanted to do by myself or get enough sleep, I would slowly start to shut down, and I couldn’t be myself. This alone time became so valuable to me, and I started to appreciate it more and more until I began to wonder if I was actually an extrovert with introvert tendencies, or vice versa. I recently discovered the word “ambivert,” which basically describes an individual who is neither an introvert or an extrovert, but somewhere in between. Since moving to a new city, making new friends and constantly wanting to explore, It’s been a real struggle trying to balance my extroverted tendencies with my introverted side. I found myself saying yes to every invitation, and I quickly become worn down and not all there. I’ve recently had to take a step back and remember how important it is for me to do my own thing while getting enough rest.
As much as it pains me to decline invitations when I’m feeling extra tired or worn down at times, I know time to myself or extra rest will let me recharge and only benefit me in the long run. If you’re anything like me, maintaining your schedule to fit your physical and emotional needs can be difficult, but so incredibly important. It’s hard not to push yourself too hard in either direction, but if I’ve learned anything from my struggles as a self-proclaimed ambivert, it’s that life is all about balance.